In the book Cosmic, Liam is pretending to be Florida’s dad. He sneaks his dad’s book called Talk To Your Teen so he can become more dad-like. A piece of advice I would add to this book would be to not argue with your teen. For example, if your teen shares something with you that you don’t find interesting, and you say it is dumb or something, your teen will not want to talk to you because they will feel offended. When your teen walks away and makes a comeback, do not pay any attention. They’re just trying to make you feel bad.
We are reading Cosmic and Liam is referring to a book called Talk To Your Teen. Here is something that I would add to the book. If your teen or pre-teen (10-12) wants a computer then think about what you do first. If you are always on the computer and reading the newspaper or waiting for pointless emails all the time then definitely get your teen or pre-teen a computer. The computer doesn’t have to be a very expensive computer, but should have a good graphics card and a good Random Access Memory or RAM. If your teen or pre-teen asks for a computer and you rarely use the computer then you should not get them a computer.
One way to get your teen to talk is do things that will make them want to do it again with you. For example, card games.
If your teen seems upset, then ask them if they want to talk about it.
Give allowance to your teen if he does all of his chores.
Go to movies sometimes with your whole family.
Do things that include family time.
In the wonderful book, Cosmic, that we started reading in Language Arts class, a twelve year old boy named Liam is reading a book called Talk to your Teen. A piece of advice I would give to manage your teenager is to limit their screen time. Some teens, when a parent isn’t home, probably watch things they are not supposed to watch. By limiting their TV and computer time they can’t.
A huge problem people have now a days are their teens arguing back. Teenagers usually complain about not being allowed to go to parties or sleepovers with their friends or even dating. When your teen fights back, argues, and yells back at you, try not to make them take advantage of you. If they rebel, show them who is boss.
In the book Cosmic, Liam finds a book that his dad uses to talk to him. Here are some suggestions of what I think should be added.
One: If your teen does not want to talk, do not trap them, ask them and make it feel natural.
Two: If your teen does not want to eat something, put a little bit in their next meal secretly.
Three: A way to bond with them is to play their games. Ask them about the games and try them.
In the book Cosmic, Liam is reading Talk To Your Teen, and here’s my advice.
Clothes. This is the major thing for many girls. A t-shirt and a hoodie, basketball shorts, and a pair of sneakers are probably the everyday thing for guys (I’m sorry if your boys wear something else, I’m in a family of 3 girls). Girls, you have every kind of jeans- colored or not, skirts- short or long, dresses- formal or informal, shirts- printed or plain, shoes- boots or sneakers, accessories- necklaces or earrings, etc.
If you have one or more girls always thinking about what they should wear as well as what they want to wear, here’s a solution. Let your teen wear what she wants to, but limit her boundary. Don’t spend your money buying her clothes unless you know she’ll like them, because you might have very different tastes (I know this from my own experiences).
Ask and listen about her style and taste. I prefer not suggesting super short skirts or shorts and strapless shirts or dresses until she is at an age when she absolutely wants to. In other words, don’t give her clothing that reveals too much skin when worn.
Also, check that your teen dresses appropriate to the weather. Remember, none of this will be easy if your teen is obdurate about what they wear unless you talk about it, and listen to them.
In the book Cosmic, the main character, Liam, is reading his dad’s book called Talk to Your Teen. I have a few suggestions I would add…
- Limited screen time
- Be firm, but not strict
- Allow dessert, but not a glut of sweets
- Have homework done by 6:00, so don’t procrastinate
These are a few examples of some rules I would add to Talk to Your Teen.
In “Cosmic”, Liam, the main character, reads a book called Talk To Your Teen, which is about getting to appreciate your teen, setting limits, and being a good parent. I think that it should have included something about bedtime. Bedtime is a big issue, because sometimes the bedtime is a limit on reading time, or it is letting teens stay up too late, and therefore not get enough sleep. Parents usually overestimate the time that children need to sleep, and children underestimate it. This is good, because usually somewhere in between is the most reasonable bedtime, unless the parent or teen is very irrational. During this time, teens need about 9-10.5 hours of sleep to function properly. A nine-o’clock bedtime is reasonable if you need to get up early if you live far from school, and a nine-thirty bedtime if you can get up later. Any later than that is unreasonable and unhealthy, and any earlier is a limit on your teen’s time. This is what I would add to “Talk To Your Teen”.
In the book Cosmic, Liam is reading a book called Talk To Your Teen. The book talks about how to get your teens to talk to you and have a relationship with them. If I were to add some advice this is what it would be.
If I really could add something to this book it would be to give your teen some alone time and not always be on their back about stuff. For example, don’t make your teen go to bed very early and let them hang out with friends when they are in the mood.
I would really like it if I didn’t have a bedtime and I could stay up and hang out with friends. Sometimes my parents won’t let me invite a friend over until I clean my room. The problem with that is I might finish cleaning my room like an hour before I wanted my friend to come and then it’s too late to invite them. So maybe if my parents would believe that I will clean my room before my friend gets there it would be much easier to invite them ahead of time.
Also, I’ll go on my phone when I get home from school but then my mom will make me get off it and do homework. Sometimes I like having a break in between school and homework. That is my advice about teens.
In LA, we are reading cosmic. Liam is the main character and he is reading Talk to Your Teen. Here is some advice I would add.
When your child has a test or a quiz, NEVER put pressure on them to get a certain score or higher. This makes it harder to do well. Instead, make sure you support them before they take a test or a quiz. When your child gets that test or quiz back make sure that you are enthusiastic if they get a good score. If your child gets a 98, you should congratulate them, not say something like “You can do better.”